I have to write this

Because I need to write this down.

When discussing about marriage, people often tell me how they want their partner/future partner to be this and to have that (insert physical characteristics, insert material things). For example, future partner must already own a house and have a car...or must help with the house chores and bla bla bla.

But these people kan, do they ever think about being the this and that for their partner/future partner? I mean, nak macam-macam but are you so perfect yourself?

I used to tell a friend of mine, if you want your husband to be like this or that, you have to work hard and make the effort to be this and that for him too. For example, you nak lelaki kaya, lelaki tu nak perempuan bergaya. Then no harm to bergaya if that's what it takes to get you that lelaki kaya. Okay, bad example but you get my point? No?

It's not fair if you expect him to watch after the kids and do house chores if you yourself tak bangun and mandi/gosok gigi lagi at 12 noon.

It's not fair to expect him to provide you a house and a car if you complain that 'perempuan je kene masak and kemas rumah'.

The key is to buat sama sama. Macam mana perempuan expect lelaki to be macam-macam, sama jugak macam lelaki expect perempuan to fit their criteria. Fair kan?

Sometimes I'm just tired of hearing how guys are sexist la ape la (yes ada yg mmg sexist), but ada juga yang baik and actually consider our feelings etc. So, maybe, we have to stop and reflect diri sendiri.

If diri sendiri nak macam-macam tapi diri sendiri taknak change, then I'm sorry, susah nak find a life partner. They deserve to find someone who fits their criteria too. It's only fair.

I guess Alhamdulillah so far I am lucky that my husband and I do things together. Jaga rumah jaga anak sama-sama. So I don't think it is melampau if he wants me to dress 'cantik sikit' or 'pakai makeup sikit' to make him senang hati. If not for my husband, then for who kan?

So, sama-sama lah, okay?


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