Lost privilege

Since the day you made it clear that we are no longer good friends, I no longer feel the need to empathise with you, no longer need to understand your 'situation'. As far as I am concerned, everything is professional from that day forward. So, I wish you would stop with the "sorry I'm so inadequate..." because to be honest, it is getting annoying and a bit tiring. I am not trying to be mean, I really am not. I'm just trying to do my work and not get involved with anything personal anymore. Everyone has their problems/issues, you are not the only one. 

When we were still considered good friends, yes, I felt that it was my responsibility to be understanding (and I really did it because I wanted to and because I cared), but now that we are not, I really do not want to know more about your personal life more than I need to.

It isn't fair that everyone has to understand what you're going through, but what about everybody else? Are our problems less important than yours? 

So yes, stop apologising if you did not do your part because I really don't want to know the reasons why.

That is all.


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